11 things I would rather do than put pants on a mobile infant

By the time Lillian was born, I had forgotten how difficult dressing a newborn was. The tightly curled legs and arms, the fragility of their tiny bones... Long-sleeved onesies on a newborn were just exhausting for me. In contrast to a toddler who knows how to at least help you get their clothes on, when you dress a newborn, you have to put them into the clothes.

Fast forward 7 months. I have a 2 year old who runs from me naked because she thinks it's funny when she pees on the floor and a 7-month old who doesn't want to be put down while simultaneously wanting to writhe, kick, and roll off the changing table. 

Pants are worse than anything else because as soon as I get one leg on, she rolls or kicks as I am getting her second foot into the other leg and the first leg comes off. Back to the drawing board...

So, I thought a list of 11 things I'd rather do than put pants on Lillian would be pretty easy to write. Here we go!

1. Watch Daniel Tiger's Neighborhood for 24 12 8 hours straight.
2. Do a week's worth of diaper laundry all at once.
3. Watch Gabby eat whole grapes.
4. Allow Gabby to smear butter all over the dining room table. True story, by the way. She was "making Daddy a horsey."
5. Put poopy diapers in the diaper genie and leave the lid open for longer than 3 seconds.
6. Allow Gabby to stick her disgusting binky in my mouth.
7. Stand at the bottom of the staircase while Gabby comes down all by herself.
8. Take a nap while the kids are not napping, only to be woken up every 7 minutes by a slap in the face and a child saying, "Mommy, you woke up!"
9. Eat Gabby's leftovers (half was probably already in her mouth).
10. Eat Lillian's leftovers. Have you tasted baby food recently? Everything tastes like pears.
11. Pay an exorbitant amount of money for daycare so someone else can put pants on her.

Be careful what you wish for!

This kid is all over the place. She is army crawling like it is her job. In the above scenario, I put her down on the other side of the room, looked up, and she was pulling the blocks out of the shelf. As I am typing this, she is gnawing on the posts to the shape stacker. We have found her under the coffee table, half under the couch, and half under her crib. 

When you have a newborn, you are always waiting for the next milestone, wishing away their babyhood. Well, be careful what you wish for because mobile babies are just on a constant death mission!

Half-birthday Update

6 months old and sitting in a chair!

Happy half-birthday, Sweet Lilly-girly! At the 6 month mark, Lillian is army crawling, pushing up onto her knees, teething like a MONSTER, and sweet as pie.Complete strangers are constantly commenting on what a happy baby she is. She even smiles first thing in the morning when I go into her room to free her from her crib. 

Lilly's stats:

16 lbs 6 oz (64th percentile), 27.5" (94th percentile)

She is long and lean, and loves to be in motion. When I am holding her, she is always wiggling her way out of my arms. She is just really ready to bust some moves. 

Hold me. I'm soon going to be chasing two of them...

Working Mom Blog Series: Episode 3 - in which my house is not disgusting

So, I swear, my house is totally not gross, but we don't clean while the kids are awake. 

Let me explain... This is part of the reason I stand by early bedtimes. I feel that the better quality the time I spend with my kids, the less guilt I feel for the time they are away from me. Thus, I do not clean while my girls are in my presence. Only when they are not here do I clean. 

The details: First of all, we do a ton after they go to bed. Laundry, dishes,yardwork... It all happens after bedtime.  I feel this is not only a safety precaution with young kids, but since Gabby is a fraidy-cat, it allows us to do noisy chores without whining. 

Secondly, we trade off kids when we want to get stuff done. If there are big jobs (painting, construction, grocery shopping), we will plan ahead and have one parent on kid duty while the other does the hard job. These jobs would not get done otherwise. 

Thirdly, we let Gabby help where she is able. I've long ago gotten over my perfectionism and am now a pro at just letting her do chores she wants to do. Who am I to judge the quality of her help? I now just accept whatever she is willing to do and keep my expectations low. It makes for much less anxiety. 

Last, I do make an effort to do things like clean the hardwood floors, vacuum, laundry over lunch breaks when I really need to get things done. Living so close to work affords me the luxury of not living in complete squalor. 

How do you get things done with kids around?

Working Mom Blog Series - Episode 2: How I See My Kids Enough

I've been criticized for sending my girls to bed too early. "You never see them!" To dispel the condemnation and guilt, I thought I'd touch on this because I feel like it can be helpful to other working moms. 

Lillian starts fussing to go to bed before I even get her home. For a while, I thought she was colic (even though I am skeptical of the colic diagnosis 90% of the time). Babies cry, so I powered through her early months thinking about why she was so miserable in the evenings. I went out on a limb. Maybe she's tired! So I started putting her to bed between 6 and 6:30pm. 

Fussiness cured. Mommy guilt exponentially increased. She is awake around 5:30 or 6am and I drop her off around 8 am. Therefore, I am currently seeing her around 2 hours in the morning and maybe 1 hour before bed. I miss my baby but I am totally seeing her enough. Here's how:

1. I stop by daycare at lunch. I mostly stop by to drop off milk, but if she's awake I will stay to play. She usually will sleep during this time and I can go run errands or go home, but sometimes she stays awake and I am grateful for that extra hour of Mommy-Lilly time. 

2. I take her up to bed ASAP. Even though she usually intends to fall asleep close to 7pm, I bring her up closer to 6 so we can cuddle and play a bit without Daddy and Gabby. I want that little bit of together time and it is important to both of us. 

3. She still nurses through the night plenty. We nurse on average 3 times over 12 hours in the night. I feel like this is an acceptable amount (compared to Gabby) and she typically wakes for the first time past 2am which is pretty great.  I cherish these night feedings and am not wishing them away for one second. 

So that's how I feel like I see Lilly enough. Gabby stays up later and is more interactive so I definitely get my fill of her by her bedtime. 

How do you maximize your time with your kids?

Working Mom Blog Series - Episode 1: How We Get Out of the House in the Mornings

Dressed and playing. Not quite ready to go.

"What time do you guys wake up in the mornings?!?!" I've heard this question time and time again from other moms, incredulous at Facebook pictures of my children fully dressed and walking around the house sucking down yogurt pouches at 7 am. I will let you in on my secret... I've learned how to avoid the major morning battles by simply ambushing my kids when they first wake up.

Lillian is usually the first one up. She starts rolling over and fussing in her crib between 6 and 6:30 am. I snatch her out of the crib, grab some clothes from her dresser and plop her on the changing table. I change her diaper and clothes and set her down on the floor with some toys to play with,

By this time, Gabby usually starts stirring and whining that she lost her binky. I move the crib from the wall, retrieve it (and all of the other junk that has landed there in the night) and plop her on the changing table and proceed to change her diaper and clothes. Now, I know plenty of people with toddlers would say to me, "I just change my toddler on the floor. You're nuts trying to wrangle her onto the changing table!" The changing table is the key to my morning success. Gabby will run and grab toys or use a million other avoidance tactics to get away from me if I don't have her on the changing table. I don't give her the option to run and she knows better than to try to pull any unsafe maneuvers while she is on the changing table.

This process takes less than 15 minutes. I pick up Lilly and coax Gabby downstairs with the promise of a snack or a cup of milk. She can walk herself down the stairs (albeit SLOWLY), and I carry the baby down. I get whatever I bribed Gabby with, settle Lilly down with a toy and I am free to get ready for work.

Voila!

After the shoe and hair assault

The most challenging part of the morning is Gabby's hair. She runs when she sees the comb, so I usually have to chase and catch her and put on PBS Kids so she will sit still for me to do her hair. Once she is ready, I load the kids into the car, start the car, run in and grab my bags and coffee and we hit the road singing "Let It Go" for the short 8 minute drive. Because I work from 9-5, we try to get into the car by 8:15 so I have time to settle them into daycare and do what I need to before I start my work day.

Once I drop them off and get to the office, I usually pump while eating my breakfast and drinking my coffee.

So that's it! Is it hectic? Yes! But this is our routine and it works for us!

Do you have any tips to make mornings easier?

Lillian: The sunshine

Lillian Rose. 

She is exactly the child I needed and didn't know I was missing. So sweet, happy, easy, SMILY. She is intoxicating. When I have a hard day at work, I go to the daycare to get a few smiles and some baby drool. My Lilly fix. 

For Gabby, Lillian is a new baby doll. She dresses her, feeds her, brings her toys and binkies and kisses and hugs her incessantly. Lilly drinks it in. She is exactly the sister Gabby needed. 

For Rick, Lillian is fun, sweet, mellow... NOT a drama queen. Just the peaceful, even-keeled daughter he will laugh about Gabby and me to.

Our surprise baby turned out to be just what our family was missing. Lillian, you are our sunshine!